One of the difficulties in conversation is when one party (or worse, both) is constantly seeking an opening to speak.

No active listening is happening; all you want to do is articulate your point.

That is off-putting and is easily read in a person’s face.

Rarely will a person be subtle about this; in most cases, they look distracted, almost animated in their will to make their point.

It is better to sit back, listen, and look for cues of when to speak.

It may be in the form of:

  • A question is posed.
  • A slight nod of the head.
  • A widening of the eyes.
  • An inflection at the end of a sentence or question.
  • When the other person stops talking or obviously motions you to speak.

This may seem obvious but does take practice. It will make all the difference.